We are living in an era where we’re constantly being pressured into picking one side or another. But it is not just just modern technology and social media that presents the world to us in this “binary” way. It is a basic evolutionary drive that leads us to look for simple rules; Is it good or bad? Is it safe or unsafe? Some of the difficulties you may be having - depression, for example - are related to a belief that it is hopeless. And once you believe that, you look at the world through hopeless eyes and see only the evidence that supports that point of view.
It is more realistic - and more human - to look at each thing that happens in life on its own, not as part of the ongoing narrative we have in our heads. But it allows us to see more than just two options. Sometimes we fail and succeed on the same day. Acknowledging both will make you feel more human than discounting either one.